Creating Normal Moments

Posted by Debi Hammond on

Here it is, the middle of November and the holidays are right around the corner. There is a part of me that can't believe we're nearing the end of 2020. Another part is thinking about what the holidays looked like last year and how I innocently took that time, the normalcy and traditions for granted. And another, the biggest part, making the very best of these moments because this now is what we have to work with.

There has been soooooo much noise this year! Noisy moments that are negative, and loud, disruptive, destructive and distracting. On the flip-side, I have to say I've noticed the real goodness, spirited resiliency, intelligence and connection of people that shines so brightly I can feel it, while hearing at the same time how divided we all are.

I am happy to say that I've been a distant spectator, for the most part, to the noise. I have been strengthening my heart and mind muscles, believing more in what I feel is true, doing what I know is right, being and deliberately creating each moment I am given. I have been learning, more than ever this year, the importance of peace of mind and the power of my thoughts, attention and feelings about those moments.

Now, I work at home in a quiet and beautiful spot and I am not bombarded with the noise, so it's been easier for me to practice mindfulness. I choose not to listen to the news, talk radio or noisy opinions about what is what, and how, when and where that what is. I had been thinking for awhile about my place in Facebook and Instagram, and after watching 'Social Dilemma' on Netflix I decided to leave those social channels, along with YouTube who recently (November 18th recently) decided to take ownership of any content on YouTube- shame on you Google. I think that people have become way too distracted and concerned about way too many things outside of what is truly important to them.

Reminds me of a great song, Biscuits by Kacey Musgraves. One of many great lyrics says, 'mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy'.

My husband and I had a short conversation about the noises and goings-on one morning over coffee and he simply said, 'It goes without saying". Sparkly light-bulb moment for me and a design was born that says, GOOD & RIGHT- It Goes Without Saying. You can find that on a Tshirt in 2 different designs on my site if you'd like to take a look-

If it's good and right, and we all know what those things are, do we really need to talk, debate, fight and fuss over what most of us believe? Black lives matter- It goes without saying. Human trafficking is horrific- It goes without saying. The media being able to lie and say anything they want without strict penalty is wrong- It goes without saying.

We can continue to talk about and be upset by the injustices of the world, most of which we can't physically do much about in this moment. Or we can focus our  attention on what's good and real and right for us? Instead of being irritated about things we have no control over or things we aren't sure are even true, let's begin to think about how grateful we are for what we have right now.

Take one of your moments and imagine your life the way you want it. Think about that, feel about that, decide what your normal is. A fun family discussion, around the Thanksgiving table whether physically or virtually, talk about one thing you're grateful for and one thing you would like to create in your life. Change your story, change your life are wise words I heard from Tony Robbins earlier this year.

When you're good with you, when you love you where you are right now and believe in your ability to create what you can imagine, think about the love, energy and vision you will have to share what you are creating. You will perpetuate more good and right in your life and in turn, the lives of others. Do what makes you happy and the happy just spills out, paving your way to more happiness.

We can all keep tuning into and being distracted by the noise or we can take a deep breath and take our lives back. What will you do to create your moments, your days and ultimately the life of your dreams. Anything is possible if only you believe with good feelings. Let the noise fade away, make amazing your new normal and have fun first, creating your kind of happy moments!

InJoy your holiday moments in whatever ways fill your heart and take good care.

Happily, Debi


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